LITTLE ROCK (KATV) - A local mother bravely shares the story of losing her son during childbirth. It's a heartache no parent wants to endure, but one that certainly happens to many.
Twenty-five years ago, President Reagan designated October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. It includes miscarriages, stillbirth, newborn deaths and sudden infant death syndrome.
October 15th is the day of observance. President Reagan once said "When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses their partner, they are called a widow. But when a parent loses their child, there isn't a word to describe them."
Tara Dedmon Finney says, "We found out at 16 weeks that we were having a little boy. We named him and had a gender reveal party. We were so excited, he was our first born but at 21 weeks I spontaneously went into labor."
Due to trauma during labor, Aidan was still born. For support, Tara got involved with Holy Sews. The nonprofit was started in 2007 by a mother who buried her tiny baby in a handkerchief.
Tara explains, "When her son Ryan was born, there were not clothes to fit babies that size. So Ryan's mom Regina Binz started sewing and it was her way of healing. As the years have gone on, more moms have been impacted by the clothes that Holy Sews creates." She adds, "I go and sit with the families and deliver the gowns. To see the appreciation from families who get to dress their children, it is everything."
Tara's son Aidan would have turned two September 2013. Tuesday, October 15, she will celebrate him during the International Wave of Light candle-light vigil. "It means everything to have ceremonies where we are able to come together and share our children. Otherwise in a world that is very uncomfortable and very scared of the situation, we don't get to share them."
You can show your support by taking part in the Wave of Light. At 7:00 p.m. around the world candles will be lit in honor of the babies. This is a day for people to remember and acknowledge.
Tuesday, October 15 at 6:30 p.m., there will be a short service and a candle lighting ceremony at Cabot United Methodist Church. All are invited. The idea is that if everyone lights a candle at 7 p.m. and keeps it burning for at least one hour, there will be a continuous wave of light over the entire world.
This year 6 month old Kellan will be there. "He is just a true miracle and we have dressed him in outfits that say 'I am the little brother' to 'I love my big brother'. He will always know he had a brother named Aidan." She continues, "Aidan is forever in our family. He is just the part of our family that is not in our arms."